I haven’t been sleeping well lately. There’s not doubt to the depths of my fatigue as of late, but when the time comes for me to power down and tuck in for the night, it doesn’t happen. In our household, when the Hubs says he’s going to bed, he shuts off his computer, puts on his pjs, and gets in the bed. He may read for a little bit, but usually the time between him announcing his departure for slumber and the actual lights clicking out is less than 10 minutes. Me on the other hand? I say I’m going to bed and proceed to do the following:
1. empty the dishwasher
2. clear the counter top of drying dishes
3. wipe down counters
4. move dry laundry to laundry basket
5. move wet laundry to dryer
6. clear off the kitchen table
7. push in all the chairs around the table
8. set the table for tomorrow’s breakfast
9. close the lid to the piano
10. collect wayward toddler, 6 year old and 8 year old detritus to bring upstairs
and this is ALL BEFORE I EVEN GO UPSTAIRS!
There’s another set of ten or so things that happen before I get in the bed, and then once I’m in the bed, I spend a few minutes massaging my leg with this scar cream that I think is really just a bottle of Nivea dressed up to look like a legitimate prescription. I put my bonnet on, strap my leg into my orthopedic boot (yes, I’m still wearing this thing), and turn off the lights. As I settle back into my pillow, my muscles uncoiling, my brain decides to remind me of the possible adventures that tomorrow will bring. If I get up 15 minutes later than usual, I’ll really enjoy a few more minutes of sleep If I get up 15 minutes earlier, though, I could knock out a few crunches before having breakfast. Or I could fold that laundry while I watch the news. Did I remember to pack the right amount of snacks in the girls’ lunches? Tomorrow I”m supposed to read at school before lunch or is it next Thursday before music class? How many trips to Target is it going to take to get all of the things on M’s camp list? Can I get it all done before V conks out for a nap? What is that noise? Did I remember to lock the front door?
And so on and so on before my alarm is tolling me awake with increasing volume. I’m up and the cycle repeats itself. The last few days, this endless listing of what the following day will bring has been supplanted with the most disturbing of dreams. I don’t know if it’s something that I ate, if it’s something in my subconscious trying to get out or what, but I go to sleep and am immediately plunged into a dreamscape that leaves me more tired upon awakening than when I went to sleep.
Have you ever had one of those dreams that you know isn’t real, but you can’t escape it no matter how much you try? Have you have ever had one of those dreams several nights in a row? It’s exhausting. It started several days ago and the dream was basic in its premise. I was at home, but it wasn’t my home. I was with my family, but they didn’t look like my family. We had a cage full of a dozen ferrets that I was responsible for and, while it wasn’t verbalized, somehow I knew that if I didn’t take care of them, they’d go all Gremlin on me. This was the first time I’d ever had a roiling anxiety stomach ache in a dream. I’ve never had a ferret in real life! I know that they feel like liquid fur, they can be both cute and vicious and that even though they’ve had their scent glands removed, they still stink. The entirety of the dream was me taking care of these ferret, hoping that they didn’t freak out, with my nose full of musk and my stomach on pitching and rolling like I was on the deck of the Titanic. The whole while, I’m telling myself, “This isn’t real. This isn’t real. Wake up, dummy! Wake up!” No haps. When I finally did emerge from that bizarre tableau, it wasn’t because I had clawed my way into consciousness. It was more of a bucket of water in the face type of wake-up courtesy of my alarm. Nothing is more disorienting that going from sleep to wakefulness, but feeling like you haven’t really left the former behind.
Same dream the next night, with minor changes. And another night, same basic premise, but now the ferrets has evolved into anthropomorphic type creatures. . .and they were wearing clothes. They looked like those jet pack wearing, roller skating dogs from Madagascar 3 (hello, subconscious).
I have no idea what all of this means. I have read articles about the symbolism involved in dreams, but I’d be really impressed if there was a ferret related symbolism that has been discussed. Certainly, the feelings of anxiety are legitimate. There’s a lot going on in my life right and I’m doing my best to keep all my plates spinning in the air. Time management, which used to be my strong suit, has not been as easy for me to get my arms around. The to-do list grows and I find myself adding things that I’ve already done just so I can have the satisfaction of crossing them off.
Which brings me to today. This whole thing has been unnerving and I need to put a stop to it because my energy is flagging, my crankiness is skyrocketing and I am close to delirious from lack of sleep. I can’t mess around any more. The Hubs has been out of for several days and I am doing above and beyond Super Mom duty in his absence. There’s no time for poor sleep. Counting sheep, warm milk and the like isn’t my jam. I don’t want to take any sleep aids because I’m afraid that one of the children will need me and I won’t be able to respond to them. What’s a girl to do?
I’m going to start with food. No more to eat after 8pm. I’ve already cut my caffeine consumption dramatically. Instead of 2-3 cups a day, I’m down to like 2 or 3 a week. I’m drinking tea and even that’s decaffeinated. As for wine — I can never remember if it’s red before or what, but no matter. This Lenten experience with no alcohol has also altered my consumption of the grape and grain.
When I’m ready for bed, I’m going to get ready for bed. Wash the face, twist the hair, put on the jammies. I’m truly going to power down when the time comes. No more texting up until I turn off the light. I will actually turn the phone off, turn the iPad off, turn the computer off. I will use a real clock (what? they still make those?) as my alarm.
I will put lavender oil on my wrists.
I will use the same charm on myself that I give to the girls to ensure sweet dreams: Think about all the good things that happened to you today. Think about all of the good things that will happen to you tomorrow. Think about all the people that you are thankful for, whose lives you’ve touched and whose lives have touched yours.
I will use some old yoga skills to bunch and relax my muscles groups in an orderly progression from my toes to my head until I’m nothing but a puddle under my blankets.
I will stand on the edge of solid wakefulness, my toes moving closer to fathomless sleep.
I will step.
I will fall.
I will sleep.
I will sleep.
I will sleep.