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Honeymoon
Madrid, Barcelona, Paris
September 10 -20, 2001
Barcelona
La Tour Eiffel, Paris
Eleven years ago.  My goodness, we were young and green!  DH, in his mysterious ways, culled together a honeymoon trip that was out of the pages of Fodor’s.  When I think back to our trip to Europe for those 10 days, it’s with mixed emotions — happiness, excitement, and a little anxiety.
Happiness, to be surely attributed to really starting our lives together as a married couple.  At that point, we’d been married a three months, but had delayed going away until we both had some time to really enjoy it.  Happiness for sure to be in Europe, traveling to places familiar and new with someone I loved.  While I’d already been to Barcelona and Paris, it was a first for DH and I was excited to show him what I remembered.  Las Ramblas, the Sagrada Familia and Casa Milia of Antonio Gaudi, and the Christopher Columbus Monument.  The Erotic Museum of Barcelona. We were on our honeymoon, afterall.
I was excited to break out my “frenglish”,  especially when we got caught in a nasty bout of cloudy and windy days and DH was without a jacket. Going to La Galleries Lafayette, just browsing and then buying (even if it was for DH). Visiting Notre Dame, the Louvre and the Winged Victory (always awe-inspiring), and the food! Oh, the food.  *le sigh*
The anxiety, though stems from what happened on the first full day of our trip. We left DC on September 10, 2001.  We arrived in Madrid, checked into our hotel,  explored a bit before jet lag gave us the one-two punch.
September 11th, 2001.  How we spent our morning is kind of hazy to me.  I’m sure we ate breakfast  or lunch and planned our day.  What I remember was walking around, window shopping. In one of the many squares that are laid out throughout the city, there was a giant video screen, similar to the one in Times Square.  Tons of people were crowded around it.  It must have been close to 1pm local time, but the crowds were thick.  On the video screen, GW Bush was talking, in Spanish.  DH and I figured it was some kind of news report and we kept walking.  It was siesta time for us, so we headed back to the hotel.
Once in our room, DH excused himself to the bathroom while I flipped through the TV stations as I dozed.  Everything was in Spanish, except for one channel that was showing airplanes flying through the sky, buildings on fire, sheets of paper fluttering to the ground like leaves off of autumn trees.  “What movie is this?” I thought.  So, I kept watching, thinking once I saw some actors, I’d figure it out.
DH came out of the bathroom, asked me what I was watching. “I don’t know,” I said as someone launched themselves from the top floor of a skyscraper.  “I thought it was a movie, but then the news ticker started running across the bottom.”
And in minutes, everything became painfully clear.  Hijackers. Airplanes. Twin Towers.  We were watching it live.  We were transfixed. We were watching when the second plane flew into the tower. News centers had no idea what was going on, the magnitude of it all, so nothing was edited.  Nothing.  The cameras showed those who managed to escape, staggering about, soot and grime covered, bleeding, crying.  The boom mikes picked up soft whumping sounds, which we later discovered were people falling from the sky.  
We watched.  We waited.  We thought, “What in the world are we doing here?!”
We went to the nearest Internet cafe we could find and started banging off emails to family and friends in New York, begging them to respond to let us know they were okay. We called our parents who reassured us that they were alright.  They said that we might not be able to even get home, so try to enjoy our trip as best we could.  It was probably safer where we were, they said.  We sat in the hotel lobby, striking up conversations with other English speaking travelers about what in the holy hell had just happened.
One couple, who had planned to leave Madrid that day anyway, was waiting to get an all clear sign from the airport.  They’d been gone from Beaumont, Texas two weeks on a golfing trip and were tired of living out of suitcases.  The husband said, they’d gotten to the airport, then got turned back to the hotel.  Then they’d gotten the call to come back to the airport. They went back, got on a plane, then got turned back. They’d gotten another call to the airport, got on the plane, got as far as Canadian airspace, and were turned back.  To Madrid.
I remember sitting on the yellow and ivory striped sofas of the lobby, listening to the soft whirring of the elevators, the gentle clicks of the keyboard as people were checked in and out.  I remember listening to the southern drawl of Mr. Beaumont, Texas and wondering when we’d hear from DH’s brother, who was living in the city.  We wondered about DH’s fraternity brother who worked not far from the towers, and my good friend who lived in Manhattan.  How could we possibly continue on a honeymoon? It seemed so foolish.  And yet, what choice did we have? Could we even get home? And once we did, then what?
We stayed.
We heard from Brandon, Billy, and Tanja.
We enjoyed the rest of Madrid, inhaling the history, the culture and the people. We went to bullfights, tapas restaurants and flamenco dancing performances.  We traveled to Barcelona, rubbing our fingers along the walls of Picasso’s house.  The aquarium, Las Ramblas, and Pans restaurant, which seemed to be the only place to get some lettuce in your sandwich.    We traveled to Paris. We dined on escargot, zoomed to the top of the Eiffel Tower, and walked, walked, walked all over the city.
We readied ourselves to go home and when we did, witnessed the marked difference in airline security.  The new normal, as it come to be.
Every generation has a turning point that defines them.  The “where-were-you-when” scenario that connects one person to another.   Most assuredly, this is mine.  
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So, for Mo’s birthday, I took her to get her ears pierced.  I know that in the mommy-verse, there’s a raging debate about ear piercing, if and when it’s appropriate, is is mutilation and so on and forth.  I don’t really think about it like that. Truth be told, she wanted either an American Girl Doll for $100 + dollars or a Nintendo DS. I offered up ear piercing as a compromise and she bit.  Plus, it’s a lesson in responsibility; she has to clean her ears, twist the posts, all that jazz.  At seven, she’s old enough.  I was nine when I got my ears pierced. I was in my twenties when I got two more holes put in my right ear and one put in my cartilage. As for my foray into body piercing, I wasn’t putting my belly button on display, but I had no problem sticking out my tongue.

Anyway, Mo gets her ears pierced.  She gets a big bottle of ear disinfectant and cleaner and is advised to soak some cotton balls with the solution to clean her ears.  I open up the medicine cabinet and no cotton balls.  For a few days, we use q-tips, but I know that I’ve got to make it official and get the cotton balls.  The problem is, I keep forgetting.  Finally, finally, finally, I make it to the store, and by some miracle, I remember to throw them in the cart.  Actually, I was trolling the aisles because I left my list in the car, yet again, and happened to bump into an end-cap display of cotton balls.

I get home, whereupon Craig and I start unloading the bags.  Co dances her way into the kitchen looking for (what else?) a snack.  She spies the bag of cotton balls, picks it up and says, “What are these?”

(source)

Me: Cotton balls.

Co: Cock and balls?

at which point, I am about to bust a gut to keep from laughing, but am immediately silenced by the death glare boring into my skull from Craig.

Me: No, dear. Cotton. Balls.

Co: That’s what I said! Cock. and. Balls.

Now Mo has come into the kitchen in search of a snack and picks up on the conversation.

Mo: Cotton balls.

Co: Cock and Balls.

Me: COTTON. COTTON. 

Craig: Enough. Gimme the bag.

Ohhh, c’mon, that’s funny stuff.  Highly inappropriate, therefore highly entertaining.  So of course, I have to tell someone.

Good thing my big brother is on speed dial.

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He’s smart.

He’s kind.
He’s an exceptional father.
He’s an extraordinary husband.
He’s a knowledgeable on a variety of subjects and can discuss most current events with ease and thoughtfulness. 
He’s patient.
He’s supportive.
He’s motivating.
He’s encouraging.
He’s handy.
He’s a good kisser.
He single handedly deconstructed our closet, painted it, and installed a walk-in closet system.
By himself.
In a day and a half
Then he took all the 29 (yes, twenty nine) boxes, tape, bubble wrap, cast-off clothes, worn out shoes (including six pairs from me *gasp*) and other random debris to the dump.  AND THEN. . .
the man went grocery shopping
I mean, really.  
He’s simply amazing. 
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I don’t have very pretty feet.  I know that about myself.  I’m pretty rough on them, too.  I like shoes with high heels and pointy toe boxes.  I like flip-flops. I put moisturizer on my feet at night, slip on some socks and get in the bed, but inevitably, I wake up with one sock on, one sock off and the sockless foot poking out from underneath the comforter (you know that’s how you keep cool at  night, too!).  I work out hard and I’ve gotten blisters, a corn, and the start of a nasty bunion. When I’m swinging kettle bells, I’m barefoot and trying not to drop 16kg of weight on my feet. . .though I wonder if that might straighten out some toes. . . .

Anyway, my feet need TLC from time to time and I am not opposed to having someone else slough off the wear and tear on my tootsies.  I look forward to a pedicure, not only because my toes end up looking way better than when I walked in, but it’s a chance for me to just sit back and do nothing but flip through my Entertainment Weekly and my People magazine.

That was plan for yesterday. Notice, I said “was”.  See, after I worked out, I went right to the nail shop with my mags in my bag, ready to sit back and just veg out.  I selected my color, hopped up in the chair, smiled at the tech and exchanged a few pleasantries.  She bustled about getting her supplies and checking the water.  She left with a quiet, “I’ll be right back,” and so I pulled out my magazine, turned on the massaging chair and started to relax.

In the nail shop, when you walk in, there are at least a dozen stations where the techs are doing nails.  As you head to the back, the room opens into another room whose walls are lined with pedicure chairs. Easily, there are ten chairs on each side.  At any given time, I’d say half of the chairs are full — men and women, young and old.  And all kinds of feet monstrosities like I’ve never seen before!  I mean, my feet are tough, but when the tech breaks out the battery powered sander and props your leg up on her knee for leverage. . .whoa.

But I digress.  The point was, there were a handful of other people getting pedicures, all of whom were bent over magazines while their respective techs buffed and polished their toes.  My tech comes back and decides that whir of the jetted tub and the gentle sshhk, ssshhk, sshhk  of nails being filed needs to be broken with her prattle about the weather, the cooking show on TV that’s making her hungry, whether or not it’s my day off, and so forth.

So, that brings me to why I entitled this post “Manners”.  I mean, I’ve got manners. I write thank you notes. I say “please” and “thank you”.  I put the toilet seat down, you know, all those good things.  I speak when spoken to.  I’m courteous to those who deserve it, especially people in the service industry, like my pedicure pal here.  However, yesterday (actually most days I get a pedicure), I don’t really want to talk to anyone. I just want to sit and be taken care of, chip-chop-chip! The tech, however, was not to be deterred and I was getting exasperated.

Truly, I just wanted to say, “Hey! Chatty Cathy!  Enough with the banter. I’m trying to read for a few minutes. I appreciate you taking my bear claw into your hands and making it pretty again, but really? Can I just get a break?”  But, because I have manners, I didn’t say that. I answered her questions. I even kept the conversation going by asking her how busy it had been that day!  Darn you, Manners!  I should have just popped my ear buds in and closed my eyes.  But, Manners wouldn’t allow it.

In the end, it all worked out; the magazines got read, my feet got all purty, and the tech got a very nice tip.  Afterall, Manners doesn’t like stingy tippers.

What about you? Do you chat up the mani/pedi tech/waxer/spray tanner/masseuse/esthetician?

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